How to make friends as an adult

Connection is an essential part of mental health. We’re social beings and are wired to have people around us who we care about and who care about us. Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere in between – today, I’ll be sharing some tips for how to make friends as an adult. 

Volunteer 

Not only is volunteering an excellent way to give back, but it’s also a really effective way of meeting like-minded people who share similar values. Do a quick google search for volunteering opportunities in your area. See which ones feel interesting to you. 

Some ideas could include: helping to build a house with Habitat for Humanity, caring for animals at your local shelter, or mentoring kids at the Boys and Girls Club. Whatever you choose, going in with an open heart and desire to help others while also meeting people is an excellent way to get started.

Attend classes 

Consistency is super important when it comes to making friends. Signing up for a class that you attend on a weekly or monthly basis is helpful because you see the same people every time and friendships can blossom from the familiarity. 

Plus, classes are an awesome way to learn new things, challenge yourself, and have fun. Some ideas could include improv, art classes, yoga, or a  meditation course. 

Engage in hobbies where you can meet new people

I’ve seen wonderful success in friendships through clients joining pickleball leagues, hiking groups, and participating in hobbies that they’re interested in. Similar to the consistency of attending weekly or monthly classes, joining a league or team is a great way to build friendships simply by seeing the same people over time. 

Think about it: as kids, we make friends in school because we see the same people daily. As adults, the same method works as well. Getting to know people through common interests helps establish a great foundation for friendships. 

An important note to keep in mind: 

Know that no one friend can do everything for you. There are friends for different occasions, activities, and needs. 

One friend might be great for happy hours, while another is the one you continuously call for a hike or outdoor adventure, and the third friend is who you call when your car is broken down on the side of the road. 

Everyone brings different gifts and talents to a relationship. Instead of knit-picking at what the person doesn’t give you, cast your net wide and have friends with different roles in your life. See how you can show up for others and allow them to show up for you. Say “yes” to new experiences and see where it takes you!